The lovely folk at Munchkin have carried out a survey of 3000 mums about the differences between having one child and two. I found the results really interesting and thought you might too!
75% of mums admitted to being far more relaxed with their second child than their first. This included things like weaning onto solid foods earlier and being less likely to make special baby meals, preferring to blend whatever the family is eating.
Second time mums are also more likely to accept second-hand clothes for their baby and spend less on toys and treats.
Most importantly, a quarter of all mums said they were more relaxed and confident with their second child.
I only have one child at the moment, but would like another in the future. I can really relate to these findings! When Pumpkin was born, I read all the books and magazines, looking for the ‘right’ way to do things. I hung on every word from the ‘experts’ (midwives, health visitors etc) and beat myself up when I didn’t feel I was doing things ‘right’.
I came to learn that there are no right and wrongs in parenting. You can only do your best for your child and use your best judgement. You have to learn to have confidence in your own decisions and instincts. I would hope that the second time around I would be able to have this confidence earlier on.
The top five things that mums admitted to doing differently with their second child are;
1. Leaving them to entertain themselves for a short period whilst they get on with some housework
2. Starting to wean them slightly earlier than six months
3. Being more willing to accept second hand clothes
4. Spending less money on toys and treats
5. Letting them watch ‘older television’ at a younger age than their older sibling
Dr Amanda Gummer is a leading authority on child development, play and parenting with over 20 years experience. Her aim is for every parent to feel comfortable and relaxed with how they parent their child. Amanda states: “These findings suggest that it’s the little things that mums do that are different with their second child. With two, mums naturally start to work smarter because they have so much to get through each day. Generally when the second child comes along, mums have become much more confident in their parenting abilities and developed their own style.”
Claire Rayner, a spokesperson for nursery brand Munchkin adds: “This poll is very insightful and confirms that having two children means life becomes even more of a juggling act for mums. With the first, there is just one child to look after and mums can give their undivided care and attention. It is understandable that mums will be more confident the more children they have, and we think this confidence should be celebrated.”
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